As part of my 2020 personal upskilling and reskilling plan, I embarked upon training to become a certified coach. Over the years, colleagues and friends often approached for advice or an interested ear, and I thought learning formal coaching skills would help up my overall people development game. But making the decision to learn was the easy part. It turned out finding a suitable trainer was a challenge. A recommendation from a valued friend led me to discover Dr. Chérie Carter-Scott, her husband Michael Pomije, and their MMS Institute team. I joined a 17-week online program composed mostly of professionals from Shanghai and began my formal coaching journey.
While studying hard coaching skills and practicing them was a key component, it was the focus on development of ourselves as people that most intrigued and surprised me. Before starting I thought the course would be solely about coaching techniques and mechanics, whereas a good portion turned out to be focused on learning how to better manage oneself. It was fascinating. These skills are not only crucial for a successful coach, but can help us cultivate stronger relationships and perform better in our personal and professional lives.
Listen to my conversation with Dr. Chérie Carter-Scott, where we talk about these skills, specifically focusing on the importance of:
- Developing supreme levels of empathy for others
- Taking responsibility
- Listening intently
- Clearing one’s mind of inner-dialogue
- Removing negative voices from one’s mind
- Believing people have the answers
- Asking great questions (that emerge in the moment)
- Not having a predetermined agenda when speaking with someone
- Letting conversations take their natural path rather than guiding them
About Dr. Chérie Carter-Scott
Dr. Chérie Carter-Scott is an ICF Master Certified Coach, #1 NY Times Bestselling author, holds a Ph.D. In Organizational Design, and has even been a guest on the Oprah Winfrey Show. She’s regularly referred to as ‘The Mother of Coaching’ due to her pioneering work in the coaching industry, which she has been doing since 1974, and has trained thousands of coaches around the world.